今年, 對我黎o講, 係好壞交織之年... 唔開心o既, 主打係工作上, 真係從來未試過o甘辛苦, 從來未過o甘委屈, well, maybe that's life! 我都承認o係呢一年長大o左好多, 亦都學懂o左好多... 如一些成功人士所言, 你因跌倒而被灑得一身都係o既塵土, 只會讓你更堅強, 助你飛得更高!
只希望, 2014 年, 事業上可以順順利利... I am ready to 衝刺啦~
Personal Life 方面, 過得尚算不錯, 家庭與愛情上, 都很相愛, 希望呢個 improvement, 可以持續!
想以兩句說話 conclude:
感謝今年走進我心裡的人, 你讓我的生命更加充實; 也感謝走出我心裡的人, 你讓我的心可以容納更多別人。
2013年12月18日 星期三
Interesting Quote
Read this from Weibo:
怎樣把這句話翻譯得高贵優雅有内涵??
“Hey, guys! If you have something to say，then say! If you have nothing to say，then go！
” 正確答案：“眾爱卿，有事啟奏，無事退朝”
怎樣把這句話翻譯得高贵優雅有内涵??
“Hey, guys! If you have something to say，then say! If you have nothing to say，then go！
” 正確答案：“眾爱卿，有事啟奏，無事退朝”
2013年12月17日 星期二
A Confrontingly Honest Admission of Struggle
My friend sent me this article yesterday... quite true...
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From [Mamamia] website:
I attended a Christmas party on Saturday night, at which a peculiar, eye-opening and unexpected thing occurred.
I am not speaking of drinking games, nude twister or exorcisms (I once attended a party where someone attempted an “intervention exorcism”. I couldn’t make that shit up if I tried).
What took place was an outpouring of honest admissions of struggle.
We were all standing around the kitchen, helping the host with the dishes, when my friend Emma (who is a reiki-master-slash-soul-reader – yes that is a thing) suggested we each share what we were grateful for in 2013 and what we looked forward to in 2014.
Keep in mind, I mix in circles of comedians, immaculately groomed gay men and their hags, so sincere emotional expression is a rare happening. There was an audible exhale from about 5 of us and then variations on the statement, “I am grateful that it is nearly over” were expressed. I found this both surprising and reassuring.
It turns out this year has been a bloody tough one for a lot of my friends. I had no idea of that fact; I thought it had just been me struggling. My mates (as is the case with most people) tend to only post the highlights of their lives on Facebook and leave the tough stuff for the sleepless nights.
When it was my turn to express what I was grateful for and what I was looking forward to, I found myself momentarily paralysed by the thought of having to find something positive to say about the past year.
In terms of shit years, I’ve had an absolute belter. I am not going to bore you with the details but the headlines are:
1. Marriage ended
2. Lost best friend due to said best friend making up that she had cancer.
3. Lost house.
4. Lost job.
5. Moved back in with my parents.
Now, I know there are people in the world with far bigger troubles than I but it’s all relative right?
To be perfectly honest it’s feels like someone placed a fucking grenade in the middle of my existence and I am now wandering on the torn up field that is my life, trying to put the pieces back together that just don’t fit anymore.
As bizarre as this is going to sound, I think that is what I am grateful for.
This year has been such an intense period of personal growth for me, none of which would have happened if I had been content and comfortable with things. I have been forced to examine my own life, behaviours and beliefs and had to face some universal truths. It has been a painful year but one rich in experience. I can actually feel the change that has happened within me, my priorities have shifted and I am becoming more of the person I would like to be, rather than the one I thought other people wanted me to be.
Am I starting to sound like I have joined a cult?!
I know inspirational quotes are mostly considered naff and gag-inducing but the one I am about to share resonated with me, is poignant for the current time and is written in red lipstick on my mirror at home, so you’ll all indulge me for a moment, right?
Nelson Mandela said: “There is nothing like returning to a place that remains unchanged to find the ways in which you yourself have altered.”
You see, a year ago, I would have stood in front of my friends and given the Facebook version of my life. I would have painted a picture of success, happiness and achievement. Of which I did have some. But that was not really an accurate depiction of my 2013. So I told the truth to my friends and in turn they told their truths. It turns out 2013 has been unkind to a lot of them but we all admitted that we learned things we would not have uncovered otherwise.
So I’ll share with you what I said to them. I am grateful for the challenging year I’ve had, the friends who supported me through it and for the discovery that I truly have balls of steel. I look forward to next year being one of new experiences, opportunities and people that I am now only open to because of the things I have learned this year.
I have paraphrased myself there. The actual version involved a bit more swearing, wine and snot-crying, but you get the gist. So, I now turn it out to you lot. What are you grateful for from 2013 and what are you hopeful for from 2014?
Drop some truth bombs, y’all.
Yours in self reflection,
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From [Mamamia] website:
I attended a Christmas party on Saturday night, at which a peculiar, eye-opening and unexpected thing occurred.
I am not speaking of drinking games, nude twister or exorcisms (I once attended a party where someone attempted an “intervention exorcism”. I couldn’t make that shit up if I tried).
What took place was an outpouring of honest admissions of struggle.
We were all standing around the kitchen, helping the host with the dishes, when my friend Emma (who is a reiki-master-slash-soul-reader – yes that is a thing) suggested we each share what we were grateful for in 2013 and what we looked forward to in 2014.
Keep in mind, I mix in circles of comedians, immaculately groomed gay men and their hags, so sincere emotional expression is a rare happening. There was an audible exhale from about 5 of us and then variations on the statement, “I am grateful that it is nearly over” were expressed. I found this both surprising and reassuring.
It turns out this year has been a bloody tough one for a lot of my friends. I had no idea of that fact; I thought it had just been me struggling. My mates (as is the case with most people) tend to only post the highlights of their lives on Facebook and leave the tough stuff for the sleepless nights.
When it was my turn to express what I was grateful for and what I was looking forward to, I found myself momentarily paralysed by the thought of having to find something positive to say about the past year.
In terms of shit years, I’ve had an absolute belter. I am not going to bore you with the details but the headlines are:
1. Marriage ended
2. Lost best friend due to said best friend making up that she had cancer.
3. Lost house.
4. Lost job.
5. Moved back in with my parents.
Now, I know there are people in the world with far bigger troubles than I but it’s all relative right?
To be perfectly honest it’s feels like someone placed a fucking grenade in the middle of my existence and I am now wandering on the torn up field that is my life, trying to put the pieces back together that just don’t fit anymore.
As bizarre as this is going to sound, I think that is what I am grateful for.
This year has been such an intense period of personal growth for me, none of which would have happened if I had been content and comfortable with things. I have been forced to examine my own life, behaviours and beliefs and had to face some universal truths. It has been a painful year but one rich in experience. I can actually feel the change that has happened within me, my priorities have shifted and I am becoming more of the person I would like to be, rather than the one I thought other people wanted me to be.
Am I starting to sound like I have joined a cult?!
I know inspirational quotes are mostly considered naff and gag-inducing but the one I am about to share resonated with me, is poignant for the current time and is written in red lipstick on my mirror at home, so you’ll all indulge me for a moment, right?
Nelson Mandela said: “There is nothing like returning to a place that remains unchanged to find the ways in which you yourself have altered.”
You see, a year ago, I would have stood in front of my friends and given the Facebook version of my life. I would have painted a picture of success, happiness and achievement. Of which I did have some. But that was not really an accurate depiction of my 2013. So I told the truth to my friends and in turn they told their truths. It turns out 2013 has been unkind to a lot of them but we all admitted that we learned things we would not have uncovered otherwise.
So I’ll share with you what I said to them. I am grateful for the challenging year I’ve had, the friends who supported me through it and for the discovery that I truly have balls of steel. I look forward to next year being one of new experiences, opportunities and people that I am now only open to because of the things I have learned this year.
I have paraphrased myself there. The actual version involved a bit more swearing, wine and snot-crying, but you get the gist. So, I now turn it out to you lot. What are you grateful for from 2013 and what are you hopeful for from 2014?
Drop some truth bombs, y’all.
Yours in self reflection,
2013年12月16日 星期一
獻给1980-1989出生的人
o係網上睇到以下一篇文章, 八十後的生活, 好苦o阿...
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那些純真的年代
無可代替的年代
獻給所有八零年代出生的笨小孩：
當我們讀小學時，讀大學不要錢
當我們讀大學時，讀小學不要錢
當我們還不能工作時，工作是分配的
我們可以工作時，戰國時代般的才能勉強找分餓不死人的工作
我們不能掙錢時，房子是分的；
我們能掙錢時，卻發現房子已經買不起了
我們沒結婚時，圍牆都是很堅固的
我們結婚時，滿城卻盡是婚外戀
祝願我們所有八零年代的孩子夢想成真，就算有點兒背，也不能怨社會，心若在，夢就在...
人生如戲
一晃二十幾年
一晃二十幾年
有些東西你是否快要遺忘了呢？
細細的品吧！
這是只屬於我們這一代人的美好回憶
趁年青複習一下
當我們回首往事
也許是花相似，但人不同了
轉眼間，我們真的已經長大。
八十年代的人，也許你上了新穎的大學，也許你找到了屬於自己的工作
或許，
你已經找到了人生中的另一半。
南恰島的姊妹情
自從北京回港之後, 講o左好耐要去韓國搵我以前一齊o係北二条住o既 roommates... （你o地如果仲記得, 我o係京城時同2個分別係韓國妹妹同埋內蒙妹妹同住), 兩年後, 終於實行o左呢個承諾了！
都唔係第一次去韓國啦，個人唔係太喜歡 Seoul 呢個地方， 唔係佢唔好，只係，無咩特色... 同香港差不多... 所以，今次11月底o既呢個5天韓國旅程，對我o黎講，主要目的都真係同两個妹妹聚舊一番~
来到 Seoul o既第一日, 只有我同埋内蒙妹妹 (簡稱 A），而韓國妹妹（簡稱 S）因為有事做，所以第二天先會 join 我o地。 一年無見 A，因為佢最近工作壓力特别大，所以有一 d 健康問题，心情不太好。我两晚上10點多随便搵o左一間小店，食o左煲熱辣辣o既豆腐煲，傾o下計，雖然好耐無見，仲係可以無所不談，舊朋友在彼邦相聚，樂事也。
第二日，當我同 A 預備落樓逛逛o既時候，電梯門一開，竟然係 S，以前就係瞓o係我隔壁o既妹妹，以前總係好似學生那樣上课下课o既摸樣，而家，成熟o左好多，穿上米色大衣，深色的長褲，頭髮绑到後面，睇落去，真係有一秒o既時間，認唔出佢... 哈哈〜
時間，真係可以將一切從此變得不再一樣~
呢一日，S带我o地去o左昌德宫，梨泰院，3D博物馆等旅游景點，晚上我o地坐火車回到佢
靠近郊區o既屋企... 佢同我o地講，o係韓國租房，都唔係容易o既事，你要先付上2年o既租金，如果無足够o既钱，就要向银行贷款吧... 唉，點解，房屋呢個問题，不論o係香港，中國定係韓國，對大家o黎講，都係o甘艱難o既一件事？？
o係火車上，我o地三個各自坐着，感觉有點累，睇住呢两個妹妹，好似大家生活得都很不容易，回想起3年前o係北京o既學生生活，大家開開心心，輕輕鬆鬆o甘，真係有點感概。。。 可能，人長大o左，大家都無可避免o甘要為生活营营役役，随波逐流...
S 而家o係韓國南恰島o既花家怡園做店長佢o係中國2年學o既中文，總算無浪费 = P 第三四日，我同 A 就跟住佢去南恰島玩，呢個小岛, 我倒是有點期望，應该會好舒服，好漂亮吧！
坐火車到o左近南恰島o既站，跟住仲要搭 taxi 去碼頭，再坐船先可以到岛上，確實好迂回... o係船o既時候，已经可以feel 到 S 很緊張，並無任何笑容，我問佢做咩事，係唔係唔舒服，佢就話每一次返工，都會精神壓力好大，因為實在有太多太多o既事等住佢去處理... 有d 抖不過氣o既感觉... 唉，睇到佢o甘樣， I don't know... 真係覺得好可悲，曾經好有夢想o既一個女孩，就係因為生活， 被折磨到o甘樣... 现實，真係讓人唔可以開懷嗎？
o係南恰島o既两日，S 都真係非常忙碌，完全無時間陪我o地玩，佢自己都話，o係度工作o左2年多，都無去過岛上o既旅游地點， 聽到都覺得有 d 無奈 -_- 南恰島其實真係一個好舒服o既地方, 到處都係樹林，湖泊，小屋，游客可以好逍遥自在o甘係岛上享受；可憐我o既韓國妹妹，要不停o既工作到晚上，10 點多先可以處理完公事收工...
旅游同埋生活，真係對立呢~
最後一日，两個妹妹搭船送我出岛外，因為我要先返香港，A仲會留係韓國多4 日，臨别在巴士站，我同佢o地2個講：希望大家唔好生活得太辛苦， 期待下一次o既重遇。。。
但願我o地三個o係往後o既日子中，可以活出我o地想活出o既生活吧~
都唔係第一次去韓國啦，個人唔係太喜歡 Seoul 呢個地方， 唔係佢唔好，只係，無咩特色... 同香港差不多... 所以，今次11月底o既呢個5天韓國旅程，對我o黎講，主要目的都真係同两個妹妹聚舊一番~
来到 Seoul o既第一日, 只有我同埋内蒙妹妹 (簡稱 A），而韓國妹妹（簡稱 S）因為有事做，所以第二天先會 join 我o地。 一年無見 A，因為佢最近工作壓力特别大，所以有一 d 健康問题，心情不太好。我两晚上10點多随便搵o左一間小店，食o左煲熱辣辣o既豆腐煲，傾o下計，雖然好耐無見，仲係可以無所不談，舊朋友在彼邦相聚，樂事也。
第二日，當我同 A 預備落樓逛逛o既時候，電梯門一開，竟然係 S，以前就係瞓o係我隔壁o既妹妹，以前總係好似學生那樣上课下课o既摸樣，而家，成熟o左好多，穿上米色大衣，深色的長褲，頭髮绑到後面，睇落去，真係有一秒o既時間，認唔出佢... 哈哈〜
時間，真係可以將一切從此變得不再一樣~
呢一日，S带我o地去o左昌德宫，梨泰院，3D博物馆等旅游景點，晚上我o地坐火車回到佢
靠近郊區o既屋企... 佢同我o地講，o係韓國租房，都唔係容易o既事，你要先付上2年o既租金，如果無足够o既钱，就要向银行贷款吧... 唉，點解，房屋呢個問题，不論o係香港，中國定係韓國，對大家o黎講，都係o甘艱難o既一件事？？
o係火車上，我o地三個各自坐着，感觉有點累，睇住呢两個妹妹，好似大家生活得都很不容易，回想起3年前o係北京o既學生生活，大家開開心心，輕輕鬆鬆o甘，真係有點感概。。。 可能，人長大o左，大家都無可避免o甘要為生活营营役役，随波逐流...
S 而家o係韓國南恰島o既花家怡園做店長佢o係中國2年學o既中文，總算無浪费 = P 第三四日，我同 A 就跟住佢去南恰島玩，呢個小岛, 我倒是有點期望，應该會好舒服，好漂亮吧！
坐火車到o左近南恰島o既站，跟住仲要搭 taxi 去碼頭，再坐船先可以到岛上，確實好迂回... o係船o既時候，已经可以feel 到 S 很緊張，並無任何笑容，我問佢做咩事，係唔係唔舒服，佢就話每一次返工，都會精神壓力好大，因為實在有太多太多o既事等住佢去處理... 有d 抖不過氣o既感觉... 唉，睇到佢o甘樣， I don't know... 真係覺得好可悲，曾經好有夢想o既一個女孩，就係因為生活， 被折磨到o甘樣... 现實，真係讓人唔可以開懷嗎？
o係南恰島o既两日，S 都真係非常忙碌，完全無時間陪我o地玩，佢自己都話，o係度工作o左2年多，都無去過岛上o既旅游地點， 聽到都覺得有 d 無奈 -_- 南恰島其實真係一個好舒服o既地方, 到處都係樹林，湖泊，小屋，游客可以好逍遥自在o甘係岛上享受；可憐我o既韓國妹妹，要不停o既工作到晚上，10 點多先可以處理完公事收工...
旅游同埋生活，真係對立呢~
最後一日，两個妹妹搭船送我出岛外，因為我要先返香港，A仲會留係韓國多4 日，臨别在巴士站，我同佢o地2個講：希望大家唔好生活得太辛苦， 期待下一次o既重遇。。。
但願我o地三個o係往後o既日子中，可以活出我o地想活出o既生活吧~
2013年12月4日 星期三
10 Reasons Why Traveling Makes You A Better Person
Read this online @ Dec 5, 2013
If you have the opportunity to pack your bags and go, do it. Go alone if you have to.
Don’t do it for vacation. Don’t do it for luxury. Don’t do it to take pictures for your Instagram account. Do it because it will make you a better person.
And here’s why:
1. Learning to be alone.
Have lunch with yourself. Sit with your thoughts and be okay with them, whatever they are. Love yourself whole-heartedly, especially in times of solitude. And when you think you can’t sit alone any longer, order coffee and a dessert.
2. Relying on the kindness of strangers.
Foreignness does not prevent random acts of kindness. Accept them. Give them. Appreciate them.
3. Learning to live with less.
This does not mean claiming hardship. Let this manifest in small ways. Recognize your fortunes. Be humbled.
4. Learning that plans change and you will have to adapt.
Itineraries are guidelines, not rigid measurements of experience. The best experiences are often not scheduled or anticipated. Expect the unexpected and learn to love it.
5. Enjoying the moment.
Forget the missed bus and enjoy the culture that can be experienced in one hour waiting at a bus stop. Stay in the present.
6. Forces you out of your comfort zone.
Practice speaking that language you learned. Try the cow tongue. Make new friends.
7. Learning to be patient.
Don’t rush through the museum. Don’t rush through your meal. Don’t bounce your leg up and down or roll your eyes. Don’t yell at anyone for reading the map wrong and getting lost. Don’t worry, you’ll get there.
8. Learning you can’t assume.
Try looking at things a different way. Ask questions. Let this open up a new realm of thought and possibility.
9. Missing home.
Appreciate family, friends, and loved ones. Appreciate the comfort of mundane routines. Find a new found respect for the life you often wish to escape.
10. Goodbye is not forever, life has endless possibilities.
Family becomes more than just blood. Never say goodbye to the people you meet and the places you see. Cherish the new families and homes you’ve gained. Keep in touch and look back with fond memories from time to time.
If you have the opportunity to pack your bags and go, do it. Go alone if you have to.
Don’t do it for vacation. Don’t do it for luxury. Don’t do it to take pictures for your Instagram account. Do it because it will make you a better person.
And here’s why:
1. Learning to be alone.
Have lunch with yourself. Sit with your thoughts and be okay with them, whatever they are. Love yourself whole-heartedly, especially in times of solitude. And when you think you can’t sit alone any longer, order coffee and a dessert.
2. Relying on the kindness of strangers.
Foreignness does not prevent random acts of kindness. Accept them. Give them. Appreciate them.
3. Learning to live with less.
This does not mean claiming hardship. Let this manifest in small ways. Recognize your fortunes. Be humbled.
4. Learning that plans change and you will have to adapt.
Itineraries are guidelines, not rigid measurements of experience. The best experiences are often not scheduled or anticipated. Expect the unexpected and learn to love it.
5. Enjoying the moment.
Forget the missed bus and enjoy the culture that can be experienced in one hour waiting at a bus stop. Stay in the present.
6. Forces you out of your comfort zone.
Practice speaking that language you learned. Try the cow tongue. Make new friends.
7. Learning to be patient.
Don’t rush through the museum. Don’t rush through your meal. Don’t bounce your leg up and down or roll your eyes. Don’t yell at anyone for reading the map wrong and getting lost. Don’t worry, you’ll get there.
8. Learning you can’t assume.
Try looking at things a different way. Ask questions. Let this open up a new realm of thought and possibility.
9. Missing home.
Appreciate family, friends, and loved ones. Appreciate the comfort of mundane routines. Find a new found respect for the life you often wish to escape.
10. Goodbye is not forever, life has endless possibilities.
Family becomes more than just blood. Never say goodbye to the people you meet and the places you see. Cherish the new families and homes you’ve gained. Keep in touch and look back with fond memories from time to time.
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