2015年1月8日 星期四

Look Up by Gary Turk

A really popular video on YouTube by Gary Turk... it's called "Look Up"... he wrote this to encourage us to quit social media... 

Look Up  

I have 422 friends yet I am lonely
I speak to all of them everyday yet none of them really know me
The problem I have sits in the space in-between
Looking into their eyes or at a name on a screen
I took a step back and opened my eyes
I looked round and realised
This media we call social is anything but
when we open our computers and it’s our doors we shut
All this technology we have it’s just an illusion
Community, companionship, a sense of inclusion
When you step away from this device of delusion
You awaken to see a world of confusion
A world where we’re slaves to the technology we mastered
Where information gets sold by some rich, greedy bastard
A world of self-interest, self-image, self-promotion
Where we all share our best bits but leave out the emotion
We’re at our most happy with an experience we share
But is it the same if no one is there?
Be there for your friends and they’ll be there too
But no one will be if a group message will do
We edit and exaggerate, crave adulation
We pretend not to notice the social isolation
We put our words into order till our lives are glistening
We don’t even know if anyone is listening
Being alone isn’t the problem let me just emphasise
If you read a book, paint a picture, or do some exercise
You’re being productive and present not reserved and reclused
You’re being awake and attentive and putting your time to good use
So when you’re in public and you start to feel alone
Put your hands behind your head, step away from the phone
You don’t need to stare at your menu or at your contact list
Just talk to one another, learn to co-exist
I can’t stand to hear the silence of a busy commuter train
When no one wants to talk for the fear of looking insane
We’re becoming unsocial, it no longer satisfies
To engage with one another and look into someone’s eyes.
We’re surrounded by children who since they were born
Have watched us living like robots and think it’s the norm
It’s not very likely you’ll make world’s greatest Dad
If you can’t entertain a child without using an iPad
When I was a child I’d never be home
I’d be out with my friends, on our bikes we’d roam
I’d wear holes in my trainers and graze up my knees
Or build our own clubhouse high up in the trees
Now the park is so quiet it gives me a chill
See no children outside and the swings hanging still
There’s no skipping, no hopscotch, no church and no steeple
We’re a generation of idiots, smart phones and dumb people
So look up from your phone, shut down the display
Take in your surroundings, make the most of today
Just one real connection is all it can take
To show you the difference that being there can make
Be there in the moment as she gives you the look
That you remember forever as when love overtook
The time she first held your hand or first kissed your lips
The time you first disagreed but still loved her to bits
The time you don’t have to tell hundreds of what you’ve just done
Because you want to share this moment with just this one.
The time you sell your computer so you can buy a ring
For the girl of your dreams who is now the real thing
The time you want to start a family and the moment when
You first hold your little girl and get to fall in love again
The time she keeps you up at nights and all you want is rest
And the time you wipe away the tears as your baby flees the nest
The time your baby girl returns with a boy for you to hold
And the time he calls you Grandad and makes you feel real old
The time you take in all you’ve made when you’re giving life attention
And how you’re real glad you didn’t waste it by looking down at some invention
The time you hold your wife’s hand, sit down beside her bed.
You tell her that you love her, lay a kiss upon her head.
She then whispers to you quietly as her heart gives a final beat
That she’s lucky she got stopped by that lost boy in the street
But none of these times ever happened. You never had any of this
When you’re too busy looking down, you don’t see the chances you miss
So look up from your phones, shut down those displays
We have a finite existence, a set number of days
Don’t waste your life getting caught in the net
because when the end comes, nothing’s worse than regret
I am guilty too of being part of this machine
this digital world we are heard but not seen
where we type as we talk and read as we chat
where we spend hours together without making eye-contact
So don’t give in to a life where you follow the hype
Give people your love, don’t give them your “like”
Disconnect from the need to be heard and defined
Go out into the world, leave distractions behind
Look up from your phone, shut down the display
Stop watching this video, live life the real way.

2015年1月5日 星期一

人一生為什麼要有2個孩子?(回應篇)

續上一篇網上看到的文章... 網友的回應, 也很感人, 很有共鳴:


我生老二的原因。
有一天我們都走了…他或她在這世間上,唯一的親人就只有彼此。

我和老公一定無法陪伴他們一輩子,所以,在未來我幫他們留下彼此,心靈上唯一可以相依偎的手足,這是我們唯一可以為他們準備的事。
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我今年32歲,一個姊姊大我一歲,兩個弟弟,一個今年27歲,一個今年即將滿20歲,爸爸在八年前因為腦中風成了植物人,媽媽在六年前因為疲勞或許是真的累了,猛爆性肝炎走了,八年過去了,爸爸仍舊是個無意識的植物人。但很慶幸,我們有四個兄弟姊妹,彼此是彼此的支柱和依靠。對我們而言,彼此是爸媽留給我們最好的禮物了。
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我也有兩個弟弟
小時候一起玩、一起說謊、一起被罵
一起考不好還互推看誰先去送死
被打比賽誰比較痛然後哭著安慰彼此
長大後比體貼、比溫暖
誰晚回家都會帶著宵夜害對方變胖
在家的會抱怨卻默默幫彼此完成家事
然後提醒「下次你補給我」(超愛計較)
懂事後不吵架了,家人更像情人
每天都嚷嚷著想對方愛對方
我和兩個弟弟
是爸媽給的最好禮物
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我是因為愛老大才會有老二,身為父母的我們,總有一天會離開我們的孩子,只有一樣東西是我們永久留給孩子的,那就是"手足",因為我愛我女兒,而未來會有太多的狀況發生,我都無法想像如果她只有一個人獨自面對,沒有兄弟姊妹可以協助的她,她會有多孤單無助,我也有兄弟姐妹,我老公也有兄弟姐妹,我們都懂手足的好,所以不管生活再怎麼苦,我都想再生一個,現在弟弟已經快三歲了,姐姐非常疼愛弟弟喔^^
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我們家生兩個,原因是我們夫妻倆有一天走的時候,兩兄弟才不會孤單面對這件事。
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我35歲,我也很感謝媽咪給我生了一個相差15個月的老弟,雖然他有時令人超想扁的,但有手足真的很好,遇到關於爸媽的事以後可有商有量滴!這在未來老人化的社會是很重要滴!
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曾經想過,活在這個世界上 父母對我們做了什麼事情?
花了半生的時間,在扶養我們,經營這個家,天上垮下來也有父母為我們扛,人生苦短,我有一個哥哥,等到父母都離開後,就剩我和哥哥兩個互相扶持。
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沒錯,這就是我的體會,也是唯一能留給孩子們最重要的資產(親情)。
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我能深深體會到這種感覺……當你最無助的時候也是身旁的兄弟姐妹幫忙的……妹妹 謝謝妳
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我常告诉老大,父母伴侣只能陪你半辈子,只有兄弟姐妹可以陪伴你一辈子。。。

人一生為什麼要有2個孩子?

Read this from Facebook... very touching... 很有感受...

[人一生為什麼要有2個孩子?最後一句是最好的答案!]

還記得4年前那在醫院裡煎熬的一整天,
一次經歷分娩的痛苦和折磨,
出了產房我跟先生說的第一句話是:

“痛成這樣,怎麼會有人想生第二個!!”

 轉眼4年過去了,
我成為了兩個男孩的媽媽,
自己在家照顧兩個小小孩,
常常被人問起,你怎麼會想生兩個的?
 其實每天面對兩個打打鬧鬧的娃兒,
當他們一起生病,一起吵著要我陪睡,
一個哭一個鬧的時候,
我也常常自問,為什麼要兩個呢?

下面這個漫畫,
是我在忙完孩子和家務的空餘時間畫的,畫得很慢,
甚至在被倆孩子惹的生氣的時候都畫不下去了,
可是,我知道,我要回答自己這個“為什麼,”

所以就有了這個答案....

 直到有一天,發現...

 我會感謝上帝,

因為我已經給了你們最好的禮物

就是.....

 請將這份 最好的禮物,分享給你的 親人手足吧!

2015年1月3日 星期六

Happy 2015 ~

很多很多年, 沒有到現場看煙花了. 今年除夕夜和老公到了灣仔海傍倒數, 迎接2015年的來臨~ 人愈來愈大, 也愈感到時光飛逝, 真的轉眼就已經一年光境... 有時, 這時光沖沖的感覺, 真的讓人挺無力的...

十一時半左右, 我們到了會展附近, 人很多, 有利靠前的位置已被佔據, 我們只好一直往前走, 去到面對尖沙咀的文化中心的梯級處, 雖然前方有2棵樹, 但煙花船也在不遠, 應該算是不錯的 spot... 到了11時時59分50秒, 倒數開始了, ICC Building 外側的 LCD 出現了 COUNTDOWN 字樣, 跟著 10... 9... 8... 7... 6... 5... 4... 3... 2... 1...

WELCOME 2015~

煙火匯演開始! 

維港上空, 被煙花照耀得如白日般光明, 五光十色的各式煙火, 燦爛悦目; 不知道為什麼, 心中突然有一片感動, 看著眼前的''輝煌'', 回想起2014年香港經歷的點點滴滴, 這一年, 對大家而言, 真的不容易...

曾經多麼光輝的過去, 多麼和諧溫暖的生活, 就如眼前燦爛的煙火, 讓人開懷; 但現在的香港, 怎麼會變成這樣子? 真有種心痛的感覺... 什麼時候, 我從前熟識的家, 才會回來呢?

很多人說過, 香港是一片福地. 願我的家, 依然會是我們的福地...

加油!

祝福!