2012年6月28日 星期四

Inside the Brains of Bieber Fans

From Wall Street Journal:

What's Behind Bieber Fever? Neuroscience Offers Explanation; a 'Safe' Infatuation


The symptoms include uncontrollable screaming, swooning and spending hours on Twitter and Facebook . It primarily affects preteen and teen girls, yet it is highly contagious and can infect mothers, too. In severe cases, sufferers camp out on sidewalks for days. "The appeal for me is, of course, that he's beautiful," says 15-year-old Emma Reeves of Madison, Conn., who has seen Justin Bieber twice in concert. "It's hard to find people who are successful, nice and care about other people and he has it all!"
By disease standards, "Bieber Fever" is approaching a global pandemic with the release of the 18-year-old pop star's latest album, "Believe," last week.
Hearing familiar, favorite music stimulates the release of dopamine, the neurotransmitter involved in pleasure and addiction, providing the same rush as eating chocolate or that winning does for a compulsive gambler, says neuroscientist Daniel Levitin, who was able to observe the process using fMRI scans in his lab at McGill University in Montreal.Compared with past outbreaks of fan mania, scientists now have a better understanding of why teens—girls in particular—become so passionate about some musicians, and the recording industry is far more adept at exploiting the phenomenon. Parents of star-struck "Bieliebers"—as his fans are sometimes known—can be assured, experts say, that what looks like mass hysteria is a harmless stage in adolescent development. Long before the Beatles, Elvis and Frank Sinatra, frenzied female fans threw their clothing at 19th century pianist and composer Franz Liszt and fought over locks of his hair, say music historians.
Dr. Levitin's research also showed that musical tastes formed in the teen years become part of the brain's internal wiring, as that is the time when some neural pathways are solidifying and others are being pruned away. That's why the music adults tend to be nostalgic for is the music from their teenage years.
Boys also develop musical tastes in this phase of life, but adolescent girls are far more likely to become infatuated with pop stars, experts say, because they are awakening to romantic and sexual feelings that are both intoxicating and scary. Having a crush on a celebrity they are unlikely to meet is a way to try out such feelings at a safe distance. "A lot of girls I know practiced their first kiss on a poster. I don't think that's changed at all," says Mark Rubinfeld, professor and chair of sociology at Westminster College in Salt Lake City.

Social critics worry about fans as hysterical, emotional girls and loner, stalker boys," says Joli Jensen, a professor of communications at the University of Tulsa, Okla. "Neither stereotype captures the experience of most fans—pleasurable, insider knowledge, playful imaginative connections about a public figure whose persona has particular appeal."
Boys are more likely to follow athletes intensely—partly out of a desire to emulate them and partly because rooting for a team conveys a sense of identity, psychologists say. Some of that carries into adulthood, as men paint themselves with team colors or skip work on game day.
The music industry fuels girls' fantasies by promoting stars with sweet, boyish looks for as long as possible. "In my era, in the '60s and '70s, Tiger Beat and other teen music magazines would airbrush out the stubble on the teen idols," says Dr. Levitin, author of "This Is Your Brain on Music," who was a record producer before turning to neuroscience.
The songs are carefully calculated to play into young girls' romantic fantasies, from the Beatles' "I Want to Hold Your Hand" to Mr. Bieber's latest song "Boyfriend" with lyrics "If I was your boyfriend, I'd never let you go." (Representatives for Mr. Bieber didn't return requests for comment.)
"I've seen girls cry in the front row because they've touched his hand. I guess it's like tears of joy," says Isabelle Hunt, age 10, of Cranford, N.J., who heard Mr. Bieber at the Apollo Theater in New York last week.
Social media has brought celebrities closer to fans, or it at least gives that illusion. "When I was younger, it was Shaun Cassidy, and we had to wait a week to see him on TV again," says Mathilde Forsell, a nurse in Westfield, N.Y., whose daughter, Carley Dugan, is a Bielieber. "Now, they can download videos 24 hours a day."
Mr. Bieber's 44 million fans on Facebook and 23 million followers on Twitter receive almost hourly updates on where he is and what he's thinking. On Sunday he tweeted love for his fans, and also this: "so the #Believe Zinepak is ONLY at Walmart. It has the deluxe CD and all the exclusive pics and content including interview and cards."
Fan fever has gone too far when children neglect school work, chores and real relationships in favor of fantasy love, experts say. "Too much is being on a computer for five or six hours a night following Justin Bieber blogs," says psychologist Alan Ravitz at the Child Mind Institute, a New York nonprofit research and treatment organization. Parents can go overboard in facilitating an infatuation, too. "A person who mortgages their house to go to New York and sleep on the sidewalk—that's an issue. But a parent taking time out of work to help their kid do something they really enjoy, that's OK," says psychologist Patrick Markey of Villanova University in Villanova, Pa. Some studies also show that children who go along with their peer groups tend to be the most well-adjusted, provided the activities aren't dangerous, Dr. Markey notes. "It may drive you crazy as parents to hear their music, but it's a sign of psychological health."
Other experts say this sort of fan behavior isn't healthy. "Contrary to popular belief, there is nothing even slightly developmentally normal or healthy about 'Bieber Fever' and similar teen extremisms," says psychologist Robert Epstein, author of "Teen 2.0: Saving Our Children and Families from the Torment of Adolescence" and other books. He argues that parents should help their offspring recognize the hype and commercialization. "I'm all about fantasies for my 6- and 7-year-olds. But past a certain point, Santa Claus has to die," Dr. Epstein says.
Young music fans probably see through the fantasies more than parents realize. Lili Foggle, mother of two girls, ages 14 and 12, in Madison, Conn., says her daughters lost interest in Justin Bieber when he started dating actress and singer Selena Gomez. "The whole attraction was that he could really be your boyfriend. He's still selling that, but the older girls aren't buying it anymore," she says.
I used to be, like, madly in love with Justin Bieber. Now I still like him, but I don't really love him, and I don't scream so much anymore," says Mrs. Forsell's daughter, Carley, age 11. She says she now prefers One Direction, a new boy band from Britain. Says Mrs. Forsell, "That's part of growing up too."

Funny...

From a friend's blog:


淘宝上一件商品的一条评价:“我穿着这件新买的斗篷去面包店,因为冷,把胳膊缩在里面。面包店老板以为我是失去双臂的残疾人,坚决不收钱,而且很贴心地把面包袋挂在我的脖子上…为了不让店主失望,我用头顶开了门,走了出来…”

2012年6月25日 星期一

梁唐處理僭建的異同

From Appledaily @ June 26, 2012


梁振英大宅的僭建醜聞,越揭越多,除了花棚、車庫、花架等,還有一個二百四十呎的地牢,跟唐英年的僭建風波不遑多讓了。兩人處理態度迥異,也反映他們人格、性格及施政風格的不同。

唐英年被揭發在約道大宅僭建地下唐宮時,先是迴避,然後以「掘深咗」、「不記得何時興建」、「雜物房」等藉口,企圖大事化小,到最後由太太出面承擔責任,過程拖拖拉拉,十足十唐英年的處事風格。


相反,梁振英被揭僭建後,第一時間找人拆掉,毀屍滅迹之餘,也大方承認,並自己定調為無心之失;到揭發更多僭建後,他辯稱入住十多年都不知道是僭建,那個地牢也一直空置。總之,不斷迅速作出回應,讓公眾覺得他做了很多事,並極速改正錯誤,這很符合梁振英的性格:快刀斬亂麻,做事果斷!


除了回應速度不一樣,兩人對公眾反應的敏感度也不可同日而語。唐英年被迫承認僭建時,原本承諾開放讓記者入內拍攝,但最後出爾反爾,以致大批攝影記者要坐在吊車上,日以繼夜守候門外,形成一道奇景,最後成為唐英年僭建風波的標誌,令事件更深入人心,對唐英年的民望造成更大衝擊。


梁振英就不一樣了,他獲揭發此醜聞的某報總編輯提前一天通知,立即找人清拆,第二晚並開放傳媒入內拍攝,親自向記者解釋。表面上很開放的讓記者拍攝,其實記者能拍到的地方很有限,地牢只能看到小部份。


很明顯,唐英年的公關是災難性的,他公開回應的說話也很愚蠢,加上口齒不清,讓人覺得他有所隱瞞,那種吊兒郎當的公子哥兒性格表露無遺。而梁振英的公關手腕了得,他好像講了很多話,迅速回應了公眾疑問,但實際上他甚麼也沒解釋清楚,只是不斷強調自己做了很多事,也諮詢過專業人士。例如,他宣佈有意參選時表示,已找專業人士檢查,大宅絕無僭建物,但事實有六處僭建,如何解釋呢?是專業人士失職,還是梁振英根本沒找人檢查,只是信口開河的謊言呢?


事實上,我們看到梁振英不斷的諉過他人,包括說僭建物都是買入時已存在,但他之前說過,收樓時請了兩名律師及一名建築師協助。難道是這三師疏忽,導致他誤墮僭建陷阱?只要稍加注意,就可發現梁振英的話前後矛盾,不斷以謊言掩飾。例如最初他一口咬定他不知雜物房是僭建的,其後改口稱數月前懷疑此乃僭建,只因太忙沒空處理。


從他狡辯、千方百計掩飾,見盡梁振英的狡獪,也證明唐英年當日指控他「你呃人」的「大話英」,是多麼的有先見性。事件再次印證:唐英年是蠢豬,梁振英是奸狼!

小時候

From Appledaily @ June 26, 2012


<小時候向女 DJ求愛 粉絲守諾賺百萬>

湖南交通頻道美女 DJ小海的愛情故事,近日引發網友熱議。11年前,一名讀中一的小粉絲寫信給她說:「你可不可以做我女朋友?」她覺得他很可愛,就回覆說:「好,但要等你清華或北大畢業了,掙到第一個100萬(人民幣.下同)了再來找我。」前日,長大成人的小男孩說:「小海姐姐,我做到了!」
「這種小孩的玩笑,大家也都經歷過吧。」當年的小海才剛入行,每天都會收到不少來信。她記不清是做兒童節目或音樂節目時,一名小男孩歪歪扭扭地寫:「能不能做我女朋友?」她沒多在意,就隨意寫下幾句勵志的話。之後通過幾次信,她也認識了那「高高瘦瘦,長得挺白」的小男孩,但後來再沒聯繫。
「你還記得我嗎?我做到了。」11年後的前天,一名男子打來的電話,讓小海「瞬間有種時空交錯的感覺」。當年的小男孩告訴她,現在他身在北京,剛和朋友完成一單生意,終於賺到了100萬。

「姑姑從了過兒吧」

小海坦言若不是他在電話裏說起,根本記不起來,但回憶起當年他的青澀真「有些感動」,也感慨:「原來我已經這麼老了。」
不少網友都感嘆小海的經歷像個童話,大呼「太美好了,完全是偶像劇的情節」,不過故事的結局並沒想像中那麼浪漫。兩人沒說太多,男方祝小海端午節快樂,然後只說「有機會大家一起吃個飯」,而且小海已有了男朋友。但有人仍將她們比喻為《神鵰俠侶》的主角,打趣說:「姑姑,就從了過兒吧。」

2012年6月20日 星期三

Quotes from Aung San Suu Kyi

“In societies where men are truly confident of their own worth, women are not merely tolerated but valued."


“If you're feeling helpless, help someone. ” 


“It is not power that corrupts but fear. Fear of losing power corrupts those who wield it and fear of the scourge of power corrupts those who are subject to it.” 


“The only real prison is fear, and the only real freedom is freedom from fear” 


“You should never let your fears prevent you from doing what you know is right.” 


“Fear is a habit; I am not afraid.” 


“We will surely get to our destination if we join hands.” 


“To view the opposition as dangerous is to misunderstand the basic concepts of democracy. To oppress the opposition is to assault the very foundation of democracy.” 


“Government leaders are amazing. So often it seems they are the last to know what the people want.” 


“Saints, it has been said, are the sinners who go on trying. So free men and women are the oppressed who go on trying and who in the process make themselves fit to bear the responsibilities and uphold the disciplines which will maintain a free society.” 



2012年6月19日 星期二

大人物的氣度

From Appledaily @ June 20th, 2012


為民主、為國家,昂山素姬和緬甸軍政權抗爭24年,失去家庭生活、失去人身自由,甚至連丈夫「死在她臂彎」的心願也無法達成。但對於這個軍政權,她日前接受美國哥倫比亞廣播公司( CBS)訪問時坦言,她沒怨恨,更沒有畏懼。

「他們待我不薄」

昂山素姬信佛,在訪問中,盡顯氣度和胸襟。
連南非民權領袖曼德拉( Nelson Mandela)也曾憎恨囚禁他的人,但她沒有:「我從沒憎恨軟禁我的人。我和曼德拉處境不同,因為我父親創立軍隊,我對軍隊有深厚感情,自小覺得是軍隊大家庭的一員。後來軍方做出人民不接受的事,我不喜歡他們所作所為,但我從沒有恨他們。」
沒怨恨,但父親昂山將軍在她兩歲時遭暗殺,恐懼總有吧?答案依然是沒有。「我不曾懼怕,那根本沒有甚麼值得害怕,他們只局限我的自由,但待我不薄。」
丈夫臨終也不能見最後一面,外界替她難過,但她只有大我精神:「我1988年決定參加民主抗爭時就決定了。當你決定要走這條路,就要走到底,總不能因個人理由改變方向。」
24年來,她沒有一刻想過離開或放棄緬甸,最心痛的是:「我被軟禁時,無力為政黨和支持者做任何事,我知他們過得很苦,但我無能為力,這是最痛心的。」

2012年6月8日 星期五

一辈子的愛情


From someone's blog:
江蘇科大七旬教授攜妻上課(完美愛情的詮釋)
昨日,一則江蘇科技大學南徐學院老教師攜妻給學生上課的微博觸動了眾多網友的心靈。微博中的老教師姓章,已年逾七十,是江蘇科技大學民辦獨立學院南徐學院的任課教師。 他在臺上講,她就坐在下麵,一臉幸福地聆聽

七旬教師攜妻上課感動網友
  @江蘇科技大學新媒體:南徐學院學生在網路發帖稱,一名快80歲教金屬工藝的老師,每天帶著他的老伴來上課,他老伴因為某些原因,有些癡呆,他在臺上講,她就坐在下麵,一臉幸福地聆聽;有時,老伴會不時地站起來要到他面前,老爺子經常向學生一臉歉意地又安排老伴坐下。一輩子的愛情……

微博中的老教師姓章,已年逾七十,是江蘇科技大學民辦獨立學院南徐學院的任課教師。學校評價稱,章老師授課非常精彩,深受學生歡迎,每年學期評教結果都是A類。退休後南徐學院返聘章老師為教學專家組專家。

校方介紹,按照返聘制度的規定,70歲後不能再返聘專家組成員,但學生非常喜愛他的課程,章老師自覺精力還很好,又出於對教學工作的熱愛,準備教完這屆再真正退下來。這樣,在南徐學院的教室裡,出現了章老師白髮蒼蒼的身影。

學校方面介紹,章老師攜夫人一同給學生上課也是權宜之計,章老師夫人患有輕微的抑鬱症,24小時不能離開他,這學期,章老師不得不把夫人帶到了課堂。夫人總是坐在最後一排聽講。課程結束後幫他收拾教具、作業本。

在江蘇科技大學宣傳部的官方微博上寫道:章老師說,帶老伴上課,原本就自覺這樣很對不起自己的學生,這次還無意間成為公眾人物,他感受到了非常大的壓力。“昨天下午我們和章老師通過一次電話,後來他就不接電話了,他希望這件事不要對他的學生和教學造成影響。”學校工作人員稱,章老師心裡一直裝著學生,讓他們也都非常感動。

網友評論

因為他們,所以相信愛情
微博發出後,網友們被老教師的事蹟感動,為兩人相守一生的愛情拍手叫好,幾乎每條評論網友們都會加上感動流淚的表情。“老一輩人的愛情沒有轟轟烈烈,沒有太多浮華的承諾,沒有什麼所謂的房子車子做依託,卻那麼簡單的幸福,樸實、真摯、感人、永恆。這是一生的堅守! sisy譚大西:“我能想到最浪漫的事,就是和你一起慢慢變老。”“因為他們,所以相信愛情。

這才是真正的言傳身教

對章老師攜妻授課這件事,網友們不吝讚美之詞,他們看到了一位好老師,言傳身教,告訴學生真正的人生和責任。江蘇科技大學新媒體在微博上留言說,“有學生說章老師真的是很負責任,姿態很低,有時候說的話會讓人感到心酸……”網友評論說章老師的金屬工藝課,“不僅僅是一堂專業知識課,更是一場人生教育課。網友“亠肜雯蓉”:“他若喜歡請讓他留在講堂,我想學生們會很喜歡他的。很想去聽聽他的課,又怕打擾老人,只有祝福。

這才是“執子之手與子偕老”
老教師帶老伴上課一事在本報官方微博上也引發熱議。網友感動于兩位老人不離不棄的愛情,紛紛表達對他們的敬佩與祝福。


搶風頭的風氣

有時候, 中國的企業和富豪所做的事, 完全無為'大局'著想...只係為面子... 呢d風氣, 幾時先改得到?


From Appledaily @ June 9, 2012


內地富豪愛炫耀,就連企業亦一樣。遠大集團宣佈,將在長沙建造一座樓高838米、共220層的世界最高樓,比現有的世界最高建築杜拜哈利法塔( Burj Khalifa)還要高10米,並命名為「天空城市」,計劃於年底落成。對於遠大將在七個月內建成世界第一高樓,許多民眾和專家無不感到疑慮。

遠大集團在日前舉行了天空城市啟動和簽約儀式(圖)。遠大宣稱,將在長沙建造一座世界最高樓,比迪拜哈利法塔高50層,選址長沙望城區。據悉,該項目建築面積100萬平方米,可容納30,400人。有網友稱,「天空城市比迪拜哈利法塔還高,而七個月就要建成,人家哈利法塔可是建了六年啊!」建築專家羅朝陽也表示擔憂:「遠大不應去搶世界第一高樓的風頭,因為遠大在建築高樓方面並不是很有經驗,他的優勢是整體裝備。如果在未知領域挑戰,會有風險。」目前,世界第一高樓杜拜哈利法
塔,共160層,可容納1.2萬人,世界第二高樓為508米高的台北101大樓。

香港男人選老婆內幕

大家同意嗎?


From Sudden Weekly @ June 8, 2012

二十年前,婚姻就像生老病死一樣普遍,有人出生,有人死亡,當然有人結婚。可是今天的香港社會,即使你是有拖拍的幸福女子,也不代表能晉升成為人妻。很多姊妹不明白,為何身邊男人口裏說不喜歡結婚,一旦分手轉頭便娶了其他女人(而且通常是閃婚)。男人移情別戀,我們以為是分手原因,但更多時候,這是結果。先排除「缺乏溝通」、「個性不合」等例牌原因,女朋友最後不能變成老婆的真正理由,其實是欠缺以下三項條件:

條件 1:我媽喜歡你


有不少女生對於行「奶奶政策」非常鄙視,我有部分烈女朋友,更一早與男方媽媽有明爭暗吵,留下牙齒印,最後當然入門無望。更慘的,就是拍個十年八年,到了「不婚就分」的階段,結果還是被飛!
身為一個已婚女子,我真切地忠告各位希望嫁得出的女生:你一定( X100,000次)要討未來奶奶歡心!全地球的男人揀老婆,第一條守則就是必須是媽媽喜歡的女生,香港的男人更加如此。如果不合老人家眼緣,將來肯定永無寧日,即使再深愛,也不敢娶回家。所以奉勸各位姊妹,千萬不要傻到跟男人阿媽過唔去,後果比得罪女上司慘一百萬倍!

條件 2:你有能力照顧我


當你看到這一條時,不用眼突,不用爆粗,不要以為編輯執錯字。我不止一次聽到身邊的男人說過,老婆跟女朋友/情婦/小三的差別,就是前者有能力照顧男人,後者是接受男人的照顧。因為男人對於老婆,不像女人嫁老公那樣天真,他們真心認為要娶一個性格獨立(但不能過分強)、有能力打理一頭家(確保自己不會住狗竇)和有情緒穩定(下班不必每天哄)的女生。所有姊妹們斥巨資大搞的外形身形打扮,反而不在考慮之列!
也許你會覺得抱這種思想的男人,嫁唔嫁都罷。那麼你選擇梳起唔嫁,也算是明智的決定。因為會娶女人回家當她公主侍候的男人,只在台劇世界中存在啊!

條件 3:你不會逼婚


如果你了解小孩與狗,你應該也明白男人。因為這三類物種,都是愈叫愈走的。你要小朋友不要做 ABCDE,他們永恆跟你唱反調全部做齊。這種包拗頸個性,在女孩成長後便消失,但男孩仍然保留此「優良傳統」。所以若然你希望男人娶你,請你千萬不要逼婚,要脅「唔結婚就分手」,因為他們在分手後寧願一世懷念你,也不會就範啊!(有咗就另作別論。)
反過來說,很多結得成婚的姊妹,都是本身對婚事無所謂,甚至打算一輩子不婚。通常抱這種心態的女生,男人覺得沒有壓力,反而會勾起結婚的衝動。
當你下一次再拍拖,要是你不再希望臨門被甩,請謹記上述三點,尤其是第一點最緊要,「得罪奶奶冇運行」啊!

2012年6月6日 星期三

【我可能不會愛你】之五十條初老症

01、枕頭旁邊,電腦鍵盤旁邊,出現一堆萬金油、白花油、綠油精等提神藥方
02、只要坐下來,小腹就有一灘肉
03、莫名其妙就會一大早醒過來
04、躺在沙發看八點檔連續劇30分鐘就會開始熟睡
05、對於沒有結論的冗長會議充滿厭惡
06、覺得自己快要被一堆密碼淹沒了!
07、對於年輕朋友不讓座這件事情會非常介意
08、對於磁場不對的人,可以毫無牽掛的跟他說再見、再見、再見……
09、KTV熱門點播排行榜的歌曲完全不會唱
10、以前可以唱KTV到天亮,現在只要熬夜一天,就會累一個禮拜
11、急於想加入facebook之類的網路活動,以免被年輕遺棄
12、如果不喃喃自語,腦子就會打結。
13、越近的事情越容易忘記,越久以前的事情反而越是記得
14、覺得五分埔與路邊攤的T恤都是給紙片人穿的
15、以前煩惱青春痘,現在煩惱小細紋
16、除非參加清早晨運的甩手功或廟會朝山活動,否則很難找到比自己年齡大的聚會
17、對於陌生網友的「我們可以交朋友嗎?」說法,覺得無比愚蠢而沒有耐心
18、認識新朋友的速度與機率逐漸鈍化
19、越來越覺得專家說法都是唬爛
20、如果一天沒有吃綠色蔬菜就會覺得身體怪怪的
21、逐漸沒有耐心替爛朋友收爛攤了
22、越來越不喜歡改變「已經習慣的習慣」
23、很討厭在外面過夜,因為要帶好多東西
24、不知不覺,隨身攜帶溫水壺和牙線棒
25、懶的交新朋友的原因,是因為懶的從頭交代自己的人生
26、終於認清「老天爺真的很忙」!
27、每次看到某某歌手某某影星過世的消息,就要感嘆一次,我們的時代過去了
28、總是把「重要的東西」放在「重要的地方」,然後把那個「重要的地方」徹底忘記
29、說你看過「東京愛情故事」,知道完治與莉香,周遭一片嘩然
30、朋友們離婚的(數量/年度)開始超越結婚的(數量/年度)
31、對於星座、運勢、紫微斗數、塔羅牌、兩性專家與勵志書,已經不感興趣
32、參加告別式的機率比婚禮多,包白包的機會比包紅包的機會多
33、再也不覺得年輕辣妹或帥哥是一種天上掉下來的幸福
34、以前糟蹋身體,現在被身體糟蹋
35、開始注意醫藥新聞,譬如銀杏是不是可以預防老年痴呆
36、對於手機鈴聲開始感覺不耐煩
37、開始關心商品成分、製造商以及賞味期限。
38、最近有件事要告訴你,可是一看見你就全忘了
39、對路邊的問卷部隊非常有意見
40、對詐騙集團開始產生周旋的戰鬥力
41、逐漸喜歡到傳統市場買菜
42、最討厭聽到「如果你不怎樣,就不能怎樣」這種威脅
43、在床上睡不著,起床看電視卻立刻在沙發上打呼了起來。
44、不想起那個忘掉的名字絕不善罷干休
45、對於RAP一點好感都沒有
46、一堆人喊你XX姊、XX哥,而你很想叫他們――閉嘴!
47、討厭過生日這件事
48、在「不好意思」和「多爭取就會賺到」兩者間,漸漸倒向了後者
49、對超商的集點活動完全沒興趣
50、對完美起疑,對不完美深信不疑!